The author of Fifty Shades of Grey, E.L James, would have had to do a lot of research to nail down the details of what BDSM and bondage sex entails. She would have had to watch a lot of BDSM videos and get into the dark depths of the internet, but did she do a good job? There are a few things that BDSM experts believe she could have done better.
Show Normality Even for couples who take part in bondage sex and create BDSM videos, they still live a normal life. Fifty Shades of Grey failed to show this normality. Normal couples with interest in BDSM still do the washing, chores, and watch TV together as a typical couple.
BDSM is Not About Injury While displaying dominance in BDSM videos and bondage sex can cause pain and injury, it’s not the ultimate aim. The dominate lover is not there to cause harm.
You’re Not Damaged If You Like BDSM Fifty Shades of Grey made BDSM a result of a damaging or harrowing past. It’s not. BDSM is a fetish and a fantasy, not a result of a painful childhood memory.