The Surprising Psychology Of BDSM

If you hear someone is practicing BDSM (Bondage-Discipline, Dominance-Submission,Sadism-Masochism), you will probably assume that the person, in his past life, was sexually abused, psychologically anxious, psychologically maladjusted, and that they he is actually attempting to hide his sexual disabilities and failures.

Surprisingly, there are low evidence that could back up these assumptions. In fact, there were studies about BDSM saying that people practicing BDSM are actually mentally, psychologically and sexually healthy. Not knowingly, you may already did some of its practices like saying “fuck” word, slapping butts of your partner, biting, and so on.

So, why there is a norm that BDSM is a psychological problem?

BDSM practice is a social stigma ever since because of the way it is being practiced. Media, for instance, is giving it a bad perception like some kind of deviant activity. In BDSM, a role-playing game is involved. The role-playing often involves physical restraint, humiliation, and most of the time, pain.

Examples of BDSM are hair pulling, light spanking, use of aggressive words, tying up with a scarf, biting, needle playing, handcuffing, blindfolding, and so on. One person assumes to be the dominant, while one person assumes to be the submissive. In their own language, the person who is the submissive is the one who is accepting all the stimulation and is called as the “bottom” or “sub”, while the person who is the dominant, doing all the stimulations, is called the “top” or “dom”. There could be a switch in the position according to the partners’ preference. It becomes a social stigma because of the physiological and physiological effects it may cause to the person.

Since Fifty Shades of Grey has been out as a movie, researchers have taken a major interest on BDSM. Not only that, many viewers have been curious about what kind of satisfaction the practices can give to them if they will apply the scenarios in their real sex lives. In contrary to the general assumptions about BDSM, there are studies that showed that there is a large percentage of men and women who have fantasies of being sexually dominated. They love the feeling of being controlled and giving up their freedom. It is their break from reality and way of releasing all their stress. Thus, BDSM is normal and occurring to majority. It also showed the BDSM practitioners have lower levels of depression and anxiety, contrary to what most people assume.

There are also assumptions that BDSM practitioners do not engage love in their relationship, but study showed that their relationship actually increases in closeness and the psychological distress, that many think they are experiencing, also decreases after doing the practices. It gives them satisfaction in a new kind of level. It’s like a mental and physical release incomparable to the normal sex practices.

The Sexual Sadism Disorder and Sexual Masochism Disorder, however, were included in the latest version of Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). But, there are grounds in considering sadism and masochism as a mental disorder. One is if the act is causing a person distress, and second if a non-consenting person has been involved. Therefore, consenting people who practice BDSM and are happy with what they are doing are not considered pathological.

 

2018-11-28T04:53:49+00:00

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